making my blogger dreams real, EVEN if pregnant
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STEREOTYPES of motherhood
this Blog
my blogger dream
WAKE-UP CALL (combining blogging and new motherhood)
I just want to quickly start by saying…
I never wanted to be a mum, but I CAN STILL see that since it’s happening anyway, motherhood can only make me STRONGER to make my blogger dreams become REAL.
With hardship, comes next-level resilience, and my determination is higher than ever to make my Blog my full-time sooner than later!
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THIS ONE is for all the girlies who may have felt like their dreams have to be put on-hold because they are pregnant, SPECIALLY, if it was an unplanned or unwanted (LIKE ME) pregnancy.
If you are experiencing any self-doubt or wondering whether you need to THROW AWAY YOUR DREAMS because of motherhood, this one is most definitely for you!
I am here to tell you how I am defying this so-called “narrative” we get sold of what it “needs” to be like as a WOMAN, becoming a mother; in attempts to inspire you to NOT FORGET that you are your own person,
…with dreams.
…with a life.
OUTSIDE of motherhood.
And that you can do it, no matter what people tell you!
I am currently pregnant, so when I am postpartum, I will update you on how I continuously navigate changes in life with a newborn WITHOUT compromising my chase to make my blogger dream a reality.
MY DREAM:
to become a full-time blogger, self-employed boss-queen, earning good money online, and living life on my own terms.
If you self-identify with any of the above, in your own way, then let’s get into the chat.
A lot more than JUST a chat, but a revolutionising shift in mindset that needs to occur to break-off the boundaries that society has imposed on us.
**SCROLL ALL THE WAY DOWN for my personal Pinterest board on all-things blogger dream aesthetic xx
STEREOTYPES of motherhood
To me, life felt like it was about to end when I found out I was pregnant.
I had come to a point in my 20s, where I had actually ESTABLISHED with myself that I DID NOT WANT KIDS.
I was extremely content with this life-choice, and it matched perfectly with my dream vision to live life on my terms, go on holiday when I want, think about myself and what I want to do as much as I want, have the freedom to simply leave the house whenever, and pursue my lifelong dream of becoming a full-time blogger and entrepreneur.
It was set.
You can only imagine how my world came crashing down with news that I was pregnant.
I am definitely not your typical “always wanted to be a mum” type of gal.
My reaction was quite the OPPOSITE to what is usually expected; in a nutshell, it involved me crying of sadness, panic and curling up in bed, going into a depressive state for a good two (or so) months, before I could manage to pull myself together.
THIS, all to say that finding out I was pregnant took a HUGE TOLL on what I BELIEVED could be possible for myself…
The idea of now becoming a mother came to me, with the prominent STEREOTYPES of:
giving up your dreams to be a mum
losing yourself, your self-identity, who you are
being in the trenches, being unhappy, being depressed
having no free-time, no time for yourself, no time for things that make you happy
As you can see, not the best associations whatsoever…
This is PIVOTAL for me to share with you girlies, because this is where I decided to actually TRY and take control of my narrative, and defy these associations as much as possible.
I wasn’t willing to give-up my dreams, who I am, what I like, for motherhood.
I was going to do my best at motherhood, but not at the expense of my own self.
I was going to do my best to manage both TOGETHER.
And this is where my journey formed in “I’m not just a mum, I’m just a girl”.
this blog
For quick context, I started my Blog in April 2024, and found out I was pregnant in September 2024.
At this point, I wasn’t being consistent blogging, didn’t quite have much direction in my content, or strategy in how I was going to level-up my blog to become a successful online business and value-packed content capsule for my community of girlies here, I had a not-very aesthetic blog managed on a platform that was quite outdated, but ALSO had my content be primarily focused on “how to make money online”.
Once being able to pick myself up, and decide to continue with my unplanned pregnancy, I came back to my Blog and was determined to give it my ALL.
What did I have to lose?
If anything, I felt even MORE OF AN URGE to make my dreams come true, and get that going before baby arrived, since I knew it would be an adjustment in itself being a first-time mum.
I STARTED GOING ALL-IN.
These are the ways I am making my blogger dream come true, EVEN IF pregnant:
my content started being specific and categorised into 3 MAIN content pillars: 1) my unplanned pregnancy journey, 2) how-to blogging, and 3) London lifestyle / girlhood (this way, Google can better recognise and rank my content and brand, to show to the right audiences, and therefore, get more views!)
I became CONSISTENT blogging every week, posting once a week
I also got consistent at pinning everyday on my Pinterest, as my ONLY social media marketing my Blog for now
I prioritised adjusting my blogging schedule to my capacity; to prioritise quality of content and maximising my input of time vs energy into my Blog. ALWAYS. (Also ensures I stay flexible whilst maintaining myself on-track to achieve my blogging goals).
I started thinking ahead of schedule and BATCHING CONTENT ahead of time, so I can keep showing-up to my Blog community, even when I know there will be a time I physically can’t (labour, newborn months)
I moved my Blog over to Squarespace which was a smart move to elevate my blogging aesthetic and features!
I made my blog page, and content, more aesthetic with photos, pinterest boards and gifs which I’m very proud of!
I started doing what I knew was NECESSARY for blog growth like SEO, starting with basic, easy steps to get familiar
I created a SPECIFIC goal-led vision board for 2025 to keep me accountable
For the first time, I researched what I ACTUALLY NEEDED to achieve my blogging goals: what stats I need, how I will earn money from blogging, from where, and my strategy to get there. This way, I had direction, steps, and a goal. COMPLETE roadmap to success!
I started thinking outside of the box: thinking about how I could make my Blog better, more known, and what new elements I can add to my Blog to make it one I’m EVEN MORE proud of; pitching myself, reading books for learning, allowing myself to think BIGGER, other forms of marketing exploration
*blog posts attached to each of the above, sharing it ALL with you.
I started committing, showing up every week (EVEN IF only for 10-minutes, since as my pregnancy progressed, it became harder to find the energy and creativity to produce quality content; and I ALWAYS prioritise quality).
I started BECOMING the person I need to be; I’m not sure if things would have happened the same way if I wasn’t pregnant, but pregnancy definitely gave me the WAKE-UP CALL of:
“you keep leaving things you want for later, when you may never get the chance if you continue this way”
And that SHOOK ME.
Instead of dwelling on the “what-ifs” or “why didn’t I?” I started DOING something about it, and taking control of my life.
my blogger dream
At the end of the day, my dream is to become a full-time blogger and entrepreneur, earn money from my online business; here on the Blog, and anywhere else I expand the brand to.
If you ask me on a deeper level, it’s about having control over my time, freedom over how I spend each second of a life I will only live once, and use that time to make the most of it with my loved ones (who I should be spending A LOT more time with) and doing things that bring me pure joy.
I have the goal that I WILL achieve blog monetisation this year, in 2025, ALL whilst being pregnant, going through labour, and the newborn months.
And I already have a plan in-place.
WAKE-UP CALL
Now, my reality says I might not have the time or freedom to blog when I wish or as much as I want, BECAUSE I am becoming a mother, but I say F**K THAT (in other words - fudge that! ahaha).
This is just the most limiting mindset I REFUSE TO ACCEPT.
Let me be your WAKE-UP CALL.
Of course it will be different, and there is a slight truth to it, but isn’t that the same when:
working 9 to 5; 40 hours a week - more like 50 if you add commute time (on a good day)
studying at university; having endless assignments, presentations and exams
Fair enough, neither of these will be a 24/7, lifelong job, as is being a mother (and I mean, hopefully having a baby would feel a lot more rewarding and fulfilling), BUT the same concept remains:
You STILL do not have full freedom and time flexibility to blog WHEN and AS MUCH as you want.
I see motherhood being the same; it may be more intense or demanding, but after a while, there will be some type of routine with pockets of time where you can CHOOSE to blog.
Same way I am doing right now, without a child, at my 9-5:
I don’t have much time really or energy to put into my blog
not as much as I wish I have
I currently use pockets of 1-hour or even 30-minutes or less sometimes, to be able to get ahead in my blogging goals, PER DAY.
The rest of the day comes with my full-time day job, travelling to and from work, choirs, preparing for the next day, and getting a somewhat decent amount of sleep if possible
THE POINT IS, life will always keep changing, and so will your circumstances, but if Blogging is something you take seriously, and plan to have it as a long-term sustainable business of yours, then you will need to CONTINUOUSLY ADAPT the way you show-up to your Blog, with your current life circumstances.
If anything, being pregnant, and going through pregnancy and newborn phase, is GOOD PRACTICE!
It should get even easier once finding a rhythm with your personal life, AND blogging.
Therefore, why do we think that we can no longer achieve our dreams of becoming our own bosses, and full-time bloggers, JUST BECAUSE we got unexpectedly pregnant?
NO.
Let’s question that narrative.
Defy it.
And replace it with once that truly serves us WELL (and doesn’t serve to self-sabotage).
That is what I am here to do and show you all how I make it happen, through my how-to: blogging tips, lessons, stats and growth, I share with you all here, as well as keeping it real on my experience as a first-time, unexpected mum (on top of ALL ELSE that I am, besides motherhood).
OVERALL, I am making my blogger dreams COME TO REAL LIFE, EVEN IF pregnant, through the ways I mentioned earlier in the chapter “this blog”.
All of this, whilst filling my cup, and holding space for all the emotions I am going through during this unplanned pregnancy.
Showing myself grace, and enhancing my self-trust that I will make it to becoming a full-time blogger, no matter what.
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Why have self-doubt, when you know you have control over what you do, how you show-up, and how you write your own story of your life?
It is normal to feel self-doubt, to feel down, to let yourself feel.
But AFTER having your moment, tap into your empowerment and realise that you can DO something about it.
Of course, there are things that are unchangeable, but it doesn’t mean we can’t work around it, as we have been up until now with other things in our life that we easily overlook, just because we are used to it (like paying bills, managing a house, adulting-things!).
I hope this blog post shows you how unwanted circumstances, or associated stereotypes of motherhood, DO NOT need to stop you from achieving your blogger entrepreneurial dreams.
It just takes some adjusting, but remember…
You are not just a mum.
You are YOU.
If anything, motherhood will make you STRONGER to pursue your dream Blogger life.
And always remember…
Own your Womanhood. Own your Time.
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now time to share my personal Pinterest Board on the Blogger AESTHETIC to keep me vision-focused and excited on my pursuit to achieving my blogger dreams in 2025, and BEYOND:
I’ll be logging updates throughout this whole journey as a mother-to-be, working to be an entrepreneur, but to also still preserve the girlhood within, to try and be her best self, and live her happiest life, so keep-up with me through the blog!
I release a new blog post every Friday at 1pm! (UK-time)
Let me know if you’re in a similar headspace (pregnant or not), being in our 20s is confusing, and taking control of our story is the only way we can take ownership of our happiness and live out our dream life.
I document my unwanted pregnancy journey at 25, taking control of my narrative, figuring out being a girl in my 20s, chasing my dream life, and conquering my boss babe dream of becoming a self-employed, entrepreneur / Blogger!
